Those Pacemaker Club members, who have gotten to know me over the last couple years, realize how much I love to whine and complain continuously about every little nuance of my life post Heart episode. During the past several years, all the gory details of my medical condition have been discussed and re-discussed by concerned members.

Yesterday, all of my children, Billy Bob, Joe Bob, and most especially Millie Bob have banded together and notified me, in writing, that the statute of limitations on my heart condition has expired (not the best choice of phrases eh?). The notice went on to state they are revoking my right to whine and complain about any issues, directly or indirectly, related to my heart, and further, I must move on to new endeavors and find something productive to do with my life. They don’t want to hear or see another thing about my broken heart.

What do you guys think, is there, or should there be, a limitation on how long we can cultivate sympathy and garner special treatment for our heart conditions? If so what are the rules and guidelines. Who are the judges that determine when the limits have been reached? Are there any special circumstances that extend the term...THOUGHTS?

Anybody know of a good support group for ignored parents?

 

 

As always, your posts are very thought provoking. If I tell you I don't know a support group for ignored parents, will you whine??

There shouldn't be a statute of limitations on complaining, but there should be a limit to how often we use it. Or maybe they could give us a dozen free passes when we're released from the hospital? We can use them whenever we want but when they're gone, they're gone and we have to shut up until we have a new problem to earn more.

I've had the heart condition all my life but very rarely use it as an excuse. When I do, everyone jumps to humor me. Kinda cool, LOL. Overusing it would kill the effect. No one wants to be around a complainer and we've all got problems. I never want to be known as "poor Tracey with the bad heart", or even worse "that pain in the a$$ Tracey who can't shut up about her bad heart". I much prefer the bugged out eyes with "you've got a PACEMAKER??? No Way!!"

 

patch you can't be serious cause i believe that you don't complain at all. i could be dead wrong about you please overlook the pun......i set off for florida and got to tennessee. i avoided a snowplow suddenly crossing the medium in front of me without signalling. i comforted a crazy brother with food poisoning and drove all night to get him home....now he is fine with not going back and not paying me half the deposit...meanwhile my husband is deep in saudi at a job that is way too much ..he is packing it in and coming home.....hope this makes you laugh at your own problems.....life is crazy sometimes and did you know that the percentage of crazies in the world is very high.......i think we may have beat those odds.....so if you like you can lecture your children on how lucky they are to have you.....i do that just to agitate them......hugs....jessie

 

...it seems that I have taken over that job now!! LOL (at least we can laugh about it!)

 

Does complaining do any good? The only people who understand what you are going thru are the people on this site. THats why we all post here and ask questions.
If you over complain nobody listens - like the boy who cried wolf too many times!!!!!!
There are 2 side to ever issue or situation - a positive and a negative - I prefer the positive - why not try it and see if it makes a difference

Tom

 

I got my PM 24 Apr 09, I was a mess. Physically, I was better but someone forgot to tell my brain soI had alot of anxiety. My grandson was born on 10 Apr 09, and by mid May I was home alone with him. My daughter wouldn't take my excuses of "what if..." she flat out told me to "get over it." I still try to get some sympathy but no one listens. After my implant the EP talked to my son and so my son now reminds me that I am "fixed" and will probably outlive everyone. But there are times that I do feel tired because I over do things and then I do get some TLC from my husband.

 

CabG Patch: You are a real hoot! Hey, who said we could not "milk" this "whining" out to the fullest? Sure beats having to face the "real world" ~ ha-ha.

As a widow, I could complain 24/7 to my four walls. "It" sure talks me out of getting a lot of drudgery work done I sure the heck do not want to do! As in, cleaning, ironing, etc. I can "whine" to myself & pretty soon, I have convinced myself tomorrow is "the" day to get the job done.

Yeah, my children sort of "humor me" in passing, but hey, IF Momma isn't happy, is anybody happy? HA-HA.

Thank God for children, young, grown or otherwise ~

Hang in there, Carolyn G. in TEXAS ( :

 

Hello Patch... I have found myself facing a similar situation, that of not being "allowed" to complain about my heart anymore, especially within earshot of my children... So to remedy the situation I determined that I needed a new reason to complain! Ah ha! Now, this was my plan... I sneaked into the breakfast room while the cellar door was opened and very carefully planned how I could toss myself down into the abyss of the basement without the use of the stairs and not kill myself. I had to be very careful as to not permanently harm myself but have done just enough so I would have new material to complain about! So far my ploy has worked. I have new material and I have been complaining steadily for nearly 3 weeks now! Not one person has threatened me, asked me to be quiet, or said "That's enough". They haven't even once asked about my heart. ha ha...
So I don't know what to tell you, but this worked for me!
Cheers,
Pacergirl

 

we have learned this much.....it is our right of passage to complain. just like our children did earlier on. you know what i don't give a rat's ass and i will continue to drive them up the wall if this is how i see it.i laugha lot lately.....and do you know what? it is true in the nineties my boss dr. allan j copper with all the physchiatric latest in the world and who had published told us by the year 2010 there will be more crazies than mentally well people. food for thought......i ask myself what side i am on...loll good for you susie...hugs xxxooojessie

 

You are a freakin GENIUS!!!! Off to find some steps....

 

once again you have gotten a few. you kill me.

dave