What to do at a time like this?

My friend's daughter has passed away.

She was just 28 years old. She went for a nap with her 6 month old baby and never woke up! She died in her sleep. It seems that her heart just stopped. I don't know what to do. I have a pacemaker and my girlfriend knows that it is why I am alive. But her daughter has died because of a similar problem that no one knew about. It is so sad.... my heart breaks for her.

My goodness... so sad

10 Comments

Very sorry

by breezy - 2010-04-24 01:04:16

Pray.listen, be there for the family
so hard and I am so sorry for you and for the family
and especially for the baby
Talk of the good times pray with the family
GOD will be there for you and for everyone
I will pray for the family and for you too
Blessings
breezy

What a shock

by ElectricFrank - 2010-04-24 01:04:58

You expect an old guy like me to die suddenly, but a 28 yr old is a shock. The most helpful thing you can do is be supportive and let your friend talk about her as much as she wants.

frank

I am so sorry

by janetinak - 2010-04-24 03:04:02

what a sad thing to happen. Like Frank says just listen & help them any way you can. You will do the right thing by being "there" for them.

Thinking of you & your girlfriend,

Janet

So Sad

by Blueaustralia - 2010-04-24 05:04:12



Your post took me back in time to when I had just had my second baby within l6 months. One of my husband's work mates came home to find his wife had died whilst napping with their baby which was only about three weeks old. It was numbing news.

You can only be supportive and let your friend know you are there if you are needed.

Thinking of you

Billie

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susie

by jessie - 2010-04-24 06:04:58

oh dear. how very sad. the family will be devestated. i think your presense will be good support. see one never does know does one? at least they know you will totally understand what can and does happen even tho rarely. thank god. hugs jessie

Sad News

by Bionic Man - 2010-04-24 09:04:44

What a horrible thing to happen. Unfortunately I read about things like this almost daily. Sometimes these things come on so quickly without any of the warning signs. This must be very difficult for you. I know you've helped me and many others through our difficult times and you'll do the same for your friend.
Bob

I'm so sorry...

by Tracie H - 2010-04-24 09:04:46

for your friend and for you. Realize she may be angry at you, at God, at whatever and be there for her on her terms. She may see you as not fair. When I got my pacer and my neighbor found out, she made a point to tell me her best friend had died from my condition she blantantly asked me, "Why do you get to live and she didn't?" I understand she was upset and confused, but it still hurt. Work with your friend the best you can but read her to give her the best support you can right now. I'm so sorry...

I'm sorry

by LS - 2010-04-24 10:04:17

{{Pacergirl}} I am so sorry to read this.
My heart goes out to you, your friend & her baby.
I am truly sorry.
Just another sad reminder for all of us to live life to the fullest.
Life is so fragile.
Liz

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by Carolyn65 - 2010-04-24 11:04:16

Losing a child at any age is a real tragedy. We lost a daughter in 1990. She had a small child. So sad.

The Family goes through so many steps of losing a loved one. "Why me?", anger, complete sadness. There are about 7 or 8 steps of needing/having to go through in such a tragic loss. A real friend helps.

Just let the Family know you are with them, how much you love them and how much they can depend on you. Just saying that does not make everything okay, but going over and visiting, hugging, "toucy-feely" just to let the Family know you are really sincere. Just go over and have a cup of coffee, offer to straighten the house, just any little thing that makes them feel you are there. Your presence and them knowing they can always call on you for just a visit, an errand or just to hold them when they need to cry. Bless the Baby.

The sadness is of losing such a young Mother, but she must have gone into God's sleep and is in Heaven. A wonderful thing, this Mother did not have to suffer.

Pacergirl, you are a true friend, one your friend needs at this time. Go sit with her and visit a "spell" & hug.

Carolyn G. in TEXAS ~ Butterflies/Hummingbirds here

How sad

by tcrabtree85 - 2010-04-25 12:04:28

That is way to close to my age. That poor baby. My heart hurts when I hear stories like this. I pray for the family and know as hard as it is to be around people after death. I pray that your friend will look to you for some support.
Stay strong and please don't overthink about the why you's when we have to just come to realize that God has his own reasons.
Love ya! Praying for you and i'm here if you need to talk or anything.

Love,
Tammy

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