need advice on 10 year old i babysit again

hello everyone, i posted a couple of weeks ago now and would like to start off by saying thanks for thoes that commented on that post. I have some more things to talk about and ask about and thought here would be a good place to start, but first i'll give the info needed for thoes that didn't read my last post, the girl i babysit is 10 and has had a pacemaker for a few years now, but just in sept had to have it replaced it's a pacemaker/defibulator, and one of the leads broke while she was at school and made it shock her multiple times. this is not the first time it has done that. anyways lately she has been acting really naughty, for lack of a better work. she is lieing to me and her mom all the time, about anything and everything, such as eating or if she has homework, and just dumb stuff like idk if you asked her if she was wearing blue socks and you knew she was she'd tell you no they were pink. she never use to be like this and i'm really worried about her. she has also stoped hanging out with her friends lately too. she has friends that live across the road from me and she use to see them every day but now she barely talks to them. things seam to be getting worse with her too. not so much while she's with me but when she is with her mom she is horrible, she refuses to get dressed in the morning and fight's with her mom about taking a shower, she has made her mom late for work every day for the last 3- 4 weeks, and to top that off the other morning she kicked her mom for no reason too. now i don't really believe that as not that i like to complain about her mother but i just have to vent. her mom is constantly picking on her, she tells her shes to skinny or boering, tells her she's no fun or funny looking all kinds of rude comments. it drives me nuts as she doesn't seam to get that that will and is affecting her daughters self esteam. I'm at a loss of what to do and i know it's not my probablem as far as her behavior goes when she is with her mom but i just feel so bad for her and want to help her. i'd love to tell her mom what i think of how she treats her but then she'd likely get mad and i'd just never see her again. it's a really tough situation. any thought's or helpfulll tips would be greatly apreacated. thanks everyone for your support.

4 Comments

pacer defib

by ibehurtin - 2009-11-22 02:11:57

hi, i have the pacer/defib high bp and tacardia i believe what she is feeling is that she is walking around with a sword hanging over her head its scary and she needs reassurance is there a heart club she can attend?her mother does not have the patience it takes a lot.

Mom and daughter

by lenora - 2009-11-22 03:11:28

Sounds to me like they both could benefit from some good counseling. The little girl is depressed--it does happen to children. She's lashing out at her mom because the parent is the closest target for a child's anger, and mom doesn't know how to handle it or how to help her. Yes, she has a pacemaker and that's a major issue for a child to deal with, but sometimes children with physical disabilities are treated differently from other kids and not taught good coping skills. You're seeing the result of that. I don't think this is an abusive situation just one that needs intervention before it gets worse.

Meassages

by pacergirl - 2009-11-22 10:11:10

Hi, I've sent you a private message...
Pacergirl

No Excuse for Physical Abuse

by Carolyn65 - 2009-11-22 12:11:54

This girl is only ten and has the bahavior of a 13 year old. What will she be like when she does become a tween/teen if she does not get the adequate care she is "begging" for now? This girl is lashing out for help She is "acting out" for attention because she does not know how to vent her frustrations of her health and any/all other problems she may have. Young females have harmones which sometimes "zing" off the walls.

Maybe this is an opportunity "knocking" for you to call and tell someone, juvenile counselors, juvenile hot line, etc. of this problem. A clergy, school counselor, your Dr. or other programs could help you find the right resources and/or know someone you could contact. They may have a very helpful program for teens/tweens/ child advocacy for this girl.

In TEXAS, the law requires you to call and turn in anyone who is being abused and/or even thought of being, physically or mentally, whether it be the girl and/or her Mother. Should you not turn in any suspicious abuse, TEXAS law reads you can be prosecuted/fined for not taking any "action" to prevent abuse.

Gibson: You need to think of your own health and what the other people's problems are doing to you, with all the worry and caring.

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