DISTRAUGHT.....almost KILLED!!

Hi everyone. Just wanted to share this with you as I feel totally traumatised & just don't know how to deal with it all. You may remember I had an ablation, just over 5 weeks ago. On Friday I was almost KILLED!!

On Friday night my son (age 17) & I were sitting on the sofa & he asked me to make him a sandwich. We got up & within ONE MINUTE a slab of concrete was thrown through our front door (glass door), it went through our sitting room door (also glass) & landed on the sofa where we had just been sitting. If I had still been sitting there the concrete would have hit me on the side of my head & KILLED me!!

I was screaming & hysterical! My husband then discovered his car windscreen (parked on our drive) had also been smashed with another concrete slab. He called the Police & told them I had a heart op a few weeks ago & was in a very distressed state! I was shaking & everything, & crying.

The Police came quickly but despite the fact we think we know who did it (a 17 year old boy who has been harrassing my son) & had the concrete slab...they said they can't do anything!! They said they can't get fingerprints from the slab as it is not smooth & won't question the boy we suspect, as they have no proof he did it. So he thinks he has got away with it! I asked the Police if they would have done anything if I had been KILLED!!

My poor husband thought he was going to have to call a Dr for me as I was very traumatised but I wanted to be "brave" for my children & thought that going to hospital would not help them on top of everything else!

We are just an ordinary family, we work hard, we never get into any trouble & have never had to call the Police in our lives!
Being involved in this incident is bad enough but the fact that just ONE MINUTE earlier & I would have been killed is just unbelievable. The Police agreed I would have been killed.

Still recovering from the heart ablation & all the trauma of the last 18 months with the arrhythmia...& now this! My poor son is devastated that this boy we suspect almost murdered his mum!!

Apart from being SO thankful I got up to make the sandwich (which saved my life)....I just feel devastated/traumatised by this. Any suggestions how to get over it/deal with it?

Thanks
Janey

5 Comments

I agree

by LS - 2010-09-05 04:09:38

With Ronaldo. You were very lucky. Count your blessings & move on.
By dwelling on it you'll just make yourself sick.
It was a horrible, scary situation, but you all are OK.
I'm sorry it happened to you.
Liz

Your ok....

by pacergirl - 2010-09-05 08:09:33

Thank goodness you were in the kitchen when this crazy person decided to launch the concrete into your home. I understand that the police can't do anything more than keep an eye on your street, however it sure leaves one feeling vulnerable.

You will have to try to put this behind you and try to move on. Thank goodness the ablation was done and you didn't have even more problems to deal with health wise. I am a little concerned about your son though, is he doing ok?

I have been traumatized more than a few times in my life and I can tell you, that it takes time to get past it. Be kind to yourself. Give yourself time to adjust to what happened to you. If you find that you are can't get past it call a professional...a counselor or therapist. You have been through a lot and you may need someone to talk to that handles traumatic situations like yours.

Best of luck to you and your family.
Pacergirl

How awful

by Genie - 2010-09-06 04:09:52

You must have been terrified. I agree, you need to talk to someone - ask you GP to refer you to a counsellor.

I know this is so horrific, but it does also provide an important lesson for people like me who worry so much about their health. After everything that has happened to you, who would have thought your life would have been most in danger like this! You've reminded me that worrying won't necessarily help things - sometimes the dangers come from places we just can't anticipate.

But I hope you are feeling better today - am keeping you in my thoughts.

Genie xx

Help

by Selwyn - 2010-09-06 07:09:17

So sorry to hear of this digusting act of violence.
Any normal person would be so upset.
It helps to talk with those that have been through the same experience about how you feel, for you that is the immediate family, and keep talking to help each other, as people often feel the same, and a 'trouble shared is a trouble halved'.

I was unable to find out if you are in the UK or not. Over here we have VICTIM SUPPORT tel 0845 3030 900 - they are so helpful to people traumatised by violence.
Your locality may have something similar.

Your physical health is so strong to cope with the shock. Try to concentrate on the positive side of this terrible experience. You are one lucky person aren't you ?- perhaps you should do the lottery!!! This is what you need to be saying to yourself: "I am lucky. I am strong".
It problems persist after a few weeks, it is worth seeking professional help.

get help

by Tracey_E - 2010-09-06 08:09:58

As Pacergirl said, give it time. It's normal to be traumatized and when you add in the frustration of not being able to do anything to find who did it, it can be hard to move on and let it go. If you are not able to get past this on your own or it's affecting your ability to function, get professional help.

We had an incident two years ago, a window was shot out of the back of my house then two weeks later some kids painted satanic graffiti on the front of the house. I was more mad than scared and my youngest daughter was ok, but my oldest (11 at the time) had some serious problems. She stopped sleeping, had nightmares, to this day she won't stay home alone. When talking to her and getting the school guidance counselor and security officer to talk to her didn't help, I didn't waste any time getting her to see a therapist. It only took a few visits and she was handling things much better. I didn't sit in on the sessions past the first one so I really don't know what was said, but the therapist helped her work through the fear and start functioning again.

An aside... don't know if it's a possibility for you but if you think that kid will cause more problems, go on the offensive and catch him next time. That's what we did. My husband is an electronics geek and former cop, he wasn't going to sit around and wait for the next problem so he put up cameras and motion detectors. The cameras are internet based so they record to our harddrive and the motion detectors are like a doorbell that rings when someone gets close to the house. I thought it was overkill, but we haven't had more problems.

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