christmas

i have always loved christmas. it is such a magical time of the year and i love watching my grandchildren at this time of year.i will continue this but i still fail to understand how a father would not love a mother . right a way the marriage is over. mom comes first in his world mommy. how strange and hard to understand . i left my daddy and my mommy and so did my husband

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to Carolyn65

by aldeer - 2009-10-17 02:10:50

What a very beautiful letter, Carolyn. aldeer

Be comforted

by Blueaustralia - 2009-10-17 06:10:14



Oh how I hate Christmas I find it sheer hard work against no spirit no good wishes. They never make any attempt. It would be nice to see the grandchildren I have never been allowed to see. I haven't seen my eldest son for over l5 years you would think he lived on the moon and not in the same country. But he can visit his inlaws two or three times a year.

Each year I swear it will be different next Christmas but it turns out the same every year. Next year I am going overseas and hope to see you on the way through Jess.
I spend my year tucking away things for everyone and know what a depressing time I am going to find it to be.

We never spent one Christmas with my inlaws. They just ignored us but it was ok to include hubby's sister's. I they wanted to see their son they would send him an air ticket and then say we don't want your wife and kids down here

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Regarding "mommy's boys" isn't that the Odipus complex.? I suffered he same until MIL passed on. My doctor said it was a case of "my son, my son>" It was Brian's house, Brian's car, Brians dog. Brian this and Brian that but never Brian's wife.

You will get through it all. I have been there with my daughter. It takes time and gets us down and we wonder when it will all end. But the sun will shine again. Just take care of yourself Jessie. Stress is no good for the pm. tons and tons of love Billie xxx





Carolyn65

by Carolyn65 - 2009-10-17 10:10:28

When I first read your Christmas comment Jessie, I did not understand what it meant, even after re-reading several times. After reading Blueaustralias comment, now I understand, I think. My husband & I, Bless his Soul, birthed a boy and a girl, raised the two exactly alike on our family ranch, with the same good moral values, being around all the ranch life, animals, same everything, etc. We both came from very poor families and could not give our children the material things while they were little/growing up. Both went to good schools, both graduated from colleges (the first 2 in their families to ever attend colleges) and both are grown and living on their own. I think the only thing my husband & I are guilty of is, raising each child to be too, very darn, independent and to be able to take care of themselves and their own lives (too good) and "stand up" for their believes without needing/having to depend on us for their decisions/advice. They both are still very kind, sweet, loving hearts, etc., but the son and daughter are like so far apart in likeness ~ as in daylight/dark. One is my "City Girl" and the other one is my "Ranch Boy". The daughter lives in Dallas, completely independent, is working toward her Master's degree and still enjoying the single, life at 40, but has seen one person regularly for 2 years and I rarely get to see her. She does come to Austin when I am in the hospital, but leaves as soon as I am ready to go home (a send-off w/a kiss). The son has a good wife, 2 sons (Thank God for Grand children) and lives on our ranch of several generations. Now the cycle is still continuing, These 2 Grandsons are being raised to be very independent and to be fine young teeners (12/13 yrs. old). I guess my bottom thought would be, God Blessed us with children, we loved them when they were growing up, we did everything/the best we could do for them, and no matter how perfect, with good morals we raised them, they to have to go off on their own and form their world. I am sure you two, Jessie & Blueaustralia, raised your children as good as anyone did/could, and in their own way, they, deep down, do love you. You just have to know in your own hearts that you did all you could do and love/loved them ~ take just one day at a time. Sounds like some do not deserve people as wonderful as you ~ there are other young children/teeners waiting/wanting to be loved. In some towns, there is a Grandparents club, fashioned after the "Big Brothers/ Big Sisters" Clubs where you can go "adopt" & mentor children, who, for whatever reason, do not have a Grandparent & needs one. This comment, again, is way too long, but you deserve someone who appreciates you ~ my Dad died when I was five ~ I longed/wished for a parent such as people like you. God will reward you. Do not let the holidays "drag" you down ~ look for someone who "needs" you and your love, like a Children's Shelter. Love, Carolyn G. ( :

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