IF YOU ONLY KNEW.........

Hello People.

Reader's Digest offered two dozen doctors a chance to tell it like it really is, and general practitioners, surgeons, shrinks, pediatricians, and other specialists took the challenge. Some wanted to be anonymous; some didn't care. But all of them revealed funny, frightening, and downright shocking things that can help you be a better, smarter patient.
I'm only going to post a few of the answers given by some physicians, just to give you all a taste of what goes on in their smart little head.
Not everything is negative, as you will read on, but it makes one leery of asking questions.

WHO KNEW ????

~ Dominique ~

We're Impatient

• I am utterly tired of being your mother. Every time I see you, I have to say the obligatory "You need to lose some weight." But you swear you "don't eat anything" or "the weight just doesn't come off," and the subject is dropped. Then you come in here complaining about your knees hurting, your back is killing you, your feet ache, and you can't breathe when you walk up half a flight of stairs. So I'm supposed to hold your hand and talk you into backing away from that box of Twinkies. Boy, do I get tired of repeating the stuff most patients just don't listen to.
--Cardiologist, Brooklyn, New York

• I wish patients would take more responsibility for their own health and stop relying on me to bail them out of their own problems.
--ER physician, Colorado Springs, Colorado

• I used to have my secretary page me after I had spent five minutes in the room with a difficult or overly chatty patient. Then I'd run out, saying, "Oh, I have an emergency."
--Oncologist, Santa Cruz, California


• I know that Reader's Digest recommends bringing in a complete list of all your symptoms, but every time you do, it only reinforces my desire to quit this profession.
--Douglas Farrago, MD

Pills, Pills, Pills

• Sometimes it's easier for a doctor to write a prescription for a medicine than to explain why the patient doesn't need it.
--Cardiologist, Bangor, Maine

• Often the biggest names, the department chairmen, are not the best clinicians, because they spend most of their time being administrators. They no longer primarily focus on taking care of patients.
--Heart surgeon, New York City

The Darker Side

• It saddens me that my lifelong enjoyment and enthusiasm for medicine has all but died. I have watched reimbursement shrink, while overhead has more than doubled. I've been forced to take on more patients. I work 12- to 14-hour days and come in on weekends. It's still the most amazing job in the world, but I am exhausted all the time.
--Vance Harris, MD, family physician, Redding, California

• Everyone thinks all doctors know one another. But when we refer you to specialists, we often have no idea who those people are. Generally, we only know that they accept your insurance plan.
--Pediatrician, Hartsdale, New York

• Not a day goes by when I don't think about the potential for being sued. It makes me give patients a lot of unnecessary tests that are potentially harmful, just so I don't miss an injury or problem that comes back to haunt me in the form of a lawsuit.
--ER physician, Colorado Springs, Colorado

• In most branches of medicine, we deal more commonly with old people. So we become much more enthusiastic when a young person comes along. We have more in common with and are more attracted to him or her. Doctors have a limited amount of time, so the younger and more attractive you are, the more likely you are to get more of our time.
--Family physician, Washington, D.C.

• Doctors are only interested in whether they are inconvenienced -- most don't care if you have to wait for them.
--Family physician, Washington, D.C.

The Sensitive Side

• When a parent asks me what the cause of her child's fever could be, I just say it's probably a virus. If I told the truth and ran through the long list of all the other possible causes, including cancer, you'd never stop crying. It's just too overwhelming.
--Pediatrician, Hartsdale, New York

• Most of us haven't been to see our own physicians in five years.
--Physical medicine specialist, Royal Oak, Michigan

• When a doctor tells you to lose 15 to 20 pounds, what he really means is you need to lose 50.
--Tamara Merritt, DO, family physician, Brewster, Washington

• If a sick patient comes to me with a really sad story and asks for a discount, I take care of him or her for no charge.
--Surgeon, Dallas/Fort Worth

• Though we don't cry in front of you, we sometimes do cry about your situation at home.
--Pediatrician, Chicago

From Reader's Digest - July 2008



3 Comments

Thank you Bambi.

by Stepford_Wife - 2008-06-20 04:06:04

This is exactly why I posted these comments.
Yes, doctors are just people, but sometimes a lot of knowledge in a certain area, along with a degree doesn't give one the right to think of patients in that way.
Indeed there are good doctors, even great doctors, compassionate doctors, doctors who think the patients come first, unfortunately, they are a minority.
Thank you for your comments, you expressed beautifully what the purpose of the post is for.
Take care,

~ Dominique ~

haha bambi

by jessie - 2008-06-20 04:06:22

good one bambi. my cardiologist is a little french canadian fat guy from quebec about five two. jess. he did tho save my life so i will take them rich or poor smart or dumb big or little fat or skinny. sometimes it just doesn't matter and god intervenes when we need it . talk soon.............jess just remember drs. like you say are human too

Let's remember...

by bambi - 2008-06-20 12:06:52

that Dr.s are just people. There are some who have bad attitudes, bad bedside manners, bad manners, and egos that don't quite fit into rooms! There are also sensitive, caring and intuitive ones too. Why does the way we are treated by Dr.s such an emotional situation? I don't have all the answers by any means. I suspect it is because when we have concerns, and we are scared and sick, we want them to deal with us on an emotional level, first, and then address the physical or technical level after that. We want to feel safe with putting our very lives in their hands and hope that the Dr. is a "whole" Dr. and not one who only specializes in one area. This type is rare today. Unless we are hopeless hypochondriacs, we do not enjoy spending countless hours in waiting rooms, or dreaming up symptoms to bother them with!
I find it very interesting that the most callous comments are from ER Dr.s, Cardiologists, and oncologists! I hope the oncologist who has his nurse page him when he has a difficult or chatty patient, is faced with cancer some day, and has a Dr. just like him! One more observation, why are the majority of Dr.s, especially cardiologists overweight themselves? To me they have all the credibility of a hairstylist with orange and blue hair!
Have a great day all!
Bambi

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