Coping

it's hard!

by Tracey_E - 2018-08-23 16:22:36

If you're at 6 weeks, can you pick them up now? Most restrictions are only for 4-6 weeks. 

I got my first device at 27, before I had kids, but I had a replacement when they were 1 and 2, so both young, active, and still in diapers. I spent a lot of time sitting on the floor with them. I could change them without worrying about trying to catch if they rolled away and play with them without picking them up. And then one day I was picking them up again and things were back to normal. This is temporary! Not easy, but also not forever. 

I hope someone posts who's in your shoes now. I just moved my youngest into her dorm so it's been a few years for me! But I've been around this block a few times now so if you ever want to chat, feel free to message me. 

Give it time

by Valerie558 - 2018-08-23 19:36:41

Hi Mamabear. I can't really give any expert advice since I've only been "paced" a week. I do keep reminding myself that I need to give myself time to adjust both physically & mentally. Not everyone heals at the same time... Hang in there... It will get better.   :)

should be able to now

by dwelch - 2018-08-27 23:43:48

Agree with Tracey you should be able to pick them up now, is there an issue?   Similar got my first one at 19 well before kids, on pacer 5 now, had two of them during my childs childhood (she just went off to college last week)...sigh.  Two pacers ago she was on the upper end of picking up but could not long after implant.  My bigger problem now is both her and mom heads are at pacer height so hugs with their head on that side can hurt if they are not careful and I am not remembering to navigate them to the other side.  I had a deviated septum surgery when she was a couple years old too.  The bigger problem is not picking them up, you should be there already, the problem is them not knowing to be careful around the site, kids as you know will jump on you and squirm around and such and a stray elbow or hand can catch you by surprise.  On the good side of that is we normally get subconciously protective of the site, when you have young kids you get protective faster and better, deflecting arms and elbows and such.

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Note, a percentage of the folks here are first timers or about to be, and another percentage are veterans, one, two, more devices.  There are folks here that have been through this from being a parent with a pacer, depression, recovery, it feels like this is that normal, should I ask the doc this question and so on...Stick around, ask more questions as needed and maybe answer some some day when you become the veteran.

pick up

by MamaBear+ - 2018-09-19 01:51:52

Thanks everyone for the comments. I am able to pick up my daughter now which is helping me feel like "normal" again. Yes @dwelch she is quite squirmy and has kicked/elbowed me on the ICD site. At that point she has quiet time in her room while mommy takes a moment for herself. Ouch!