What shows after healing? NSFW? (Puberty+ ok)

NSFW? 😂Nothing profane, simply human sexuality. Obviously anyone is welcome to read & respond, but looking for answers from well endowed ladies (or maybe men with top-cushion?) 

2 questions...

1) SEX with a partner! I’m not advised against it, but the idea of my pacemaker wound is kinda weird. I am guessing that I will just have to take my time in the healing & then things will get back to normal.

2) I’ve a solid hourglass figure… got childbearing hips, well endowed-my waist saves me from looking like a big girl! I like my breasts; I’ve always worn a low-cut V-neck shirts to show them off. (If I feel like crap about superficial self? I’ve always got my hair & my girls!) HOW serious is this going to change my cleavage?!??

 

I wasn’t quite expecting the placement of the incision! It was explained to me, of course… I had a very hard time pre-op & wanted as little information as possible while still consenting to the procedure. I don’t get the strips off until Tuesday ( day 12-Easter schedule.) & i’m still swollen…

 

How noticeable is this going to be? I like going out and looking cute! I’m not trying to pick anyone up – I’m happily partnered –I just want to be able to wear the clothes I’m used to wearing! I don’t mind a scar; that reminds me of where I have come from. But, I don’t want to look like I have three boobs… Ya understand? I’m guessing I have enough padding that this will not be an issue… But, any personal messages or feedback from women that fit my description are helpful! 

 

(Having trouble correcting on app- please excuse anything repeated.)

 

2 Comments

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by Tracey_E - 2019-04-19 22:17:36

I found it took close to a year for the incision to flatten and blend in. Swelling was gone long before that but the pacer continued to settle in after. Keep it out of the sun for the first year, keep it moisturized, that will help it heal as well as possible.

I wear what I want. Most outfits don't show the scar and mine settled in so that there is no lump but I don't really care if it shows. It doesn't show with most tops but it does show with the tanks I like at the gym. Every once in a while someone will ask but if poeple notice they don't usually say anything. Do you ask others about their scars? Or even notice them? Probably not. You'd be surprised how little people notice.

If my husband has an issue with it, he's smart enough to not say it! I got my first pacer 6 months after we got married. It was a non-event in our sex life. Seriously. I almost died, preventing that was what's important. The rest is just details. I'm still me and he's happy I'm still here. 

You'll be fine - and if not, there's a fix.

by Elisabet - 2019-05-04 22:02:21

The swelling will go down and whether the PM is visible is going to depend on a lot of factors. My first go-round it was very visible, it stuck out and you could see the shape under my skin. However I don't think you're going to have that problem. I had a lot of radiation to that area when I was young so there's hardly any subcutaneous fat - you could practically read the serial number through my thin skin. But the big problem was that it moved around in the pocket and the wire loop ended up on top. 

I had a pocket revision done so that it is placed more securely and somewhat deeper, so that I can now wear a seatbelt and use sports bras again. It's like night and day. You can still see two small bumps where the screws stick up, right under my collarbone, so it's definitely noticeable when wearing a swimsuit or tank tops etc. - if you look for it. But 99% of the time it's under clothing. Also, while there is still a small sensitive area I don't want touched, it's tiny now. 

The reason I mention the pocket revision is that, on the off chance where it is and how it looks or feels is an issue, there is a remedy. Also, don't be alarmed by how it looks when the bandages come off. It takes a while for the swelling to settle and the scar to fade. 

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