flying an air plane

my daughter is going on her 1st trip to colorado for a week she is 15 an has her pm for 4 years now an i am a little scarried to let her go away that far from me but she will be with there family an they willhave cell phones but i am so so so worried to let her gobut i did check with drs. an they said that ok she can go an she will be ok but i wont be ok i will worry an i alwy will forever its hard to have you little one with a pmso anyone canhelp me be ok with this something that could be helpful to tell me plz thanks allot

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trip

by HelenB - 2008-07-09 02:07:27

One thing to do is remember that doing this kind of thing on her own and feeling independent is very important for your daughter and her self-esteem. As someone who has had some fairly serious health problems since I was a toddler, I know what it's like to feel like a "sick person" and feel like you can't do anything for yourself without always being protected. Over-protecting a child or teenager can just make them feel like they aren't capable of doing things on their own.

Letting your daughter go on this trip and see that she CAN do things by herself, and have a great time, is so important.

Just try to remember everything you said in your message - the Dr's have said it's ok, and the people she's with will have cell phones if anyone needs to contact you. But the best thing is to let your daughter go and have a fantastic time. It'll be good for her to see that living a normal life, full of fun and good experiences, is possible for her.

Helen

She will be OK

by pete - 2008-07-09 03:07:43

You should be proud of her that she feels independant to go away on her own. Its always difficult for loving parents to pay out the rope, but it is something you have to learn to accept. Try and think of what she is thinking, she is probably also worrying about you just a little. I am sure she understands how you feel. You have protected her for so long and now you have to let her out of sight. What she is doing is what you should expect from someone of that age who is feeling normal and just wants to be herself and strike out for a bit more independance. This was bound to happen at some stage and I know how hard it is for you after having to be extra responsible for her. I am sure she will be ok on this trip. Cheers pete

Great!

by richan - 2008-07-09 05:07:48

Hi Michelle,
Sounds like all of your concerns are covered. It will be a wonderful opportunity for your daughter to try a little independence.
You might want to get (and give her) a recent print-out with her current PM data from her cardiologist (or pacemaker technician). That way she will have that information with her if needed.
I hope she has a great time.

Richan

flying

by aa11177 - 2008-08-15 05:08:45

do not worry your daughtor can fly a plan just make sure she stepps aside the part where they use the ward DO NOT HAVE THEM DO THAT ON HER .

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