My Mum is sadly dying…

Hello Everyone,

It has been a long while since I have been on this forum, but things have been really hard. I have had a few issues with artrial tachy and NSVT recently,but the main issue is my mum.

Last year we found out my grangrad had an incurable and terminal brain tumour, being the strongest and bravest person in our lives, and my mums absolute world, this reslly hit us hard. And as of october my mum too was diagnosed with a rare and aggressive form of cervical cancer, which has spread throughout her body.

She has been given a prognosis of months to live, but with some treatment that the NHS does not provide, those months could be increased. I am so greatful for everyone on this group, as you have helped me through some extremely dark times, but with myself having pacemaker issues, my sister dipping in and out of rejection from her heart transplant, and my grangrad and mum both dying of cancer, I plead with you that you will please share the link to my mums go fund me page, it could really help us keep her here longer.

More information and her story can be found using the link, Thank you all for your endless support and love, I hope you are all doing well,

Hayden x

https://www.gofundme.com/f/doingitforstacy?utm_source=customer&utm_medium=copy_link_all&utm_campaign=p_cp+share-sheet

3 Comments

the link…

by PacerPrice - 2022-01-25 06:13:45

If the link does not work- on gofund me the name is doing it for stacy, and was made by sarah hill,

Thank you x

Cannot believe your news

by Gemita - 2022-01-25 07:58:54

Dear Hayden,

I was dismayed to read your message and to know that you and the family are suffering.  It seems unbelievable that you are having to face so much distress all at one time.  Life has indeed been cruel to you all and I think you are doing incredibly well to stay calm and to try to think clearly.

I will have a look at the link Hayden and do whatever I can to help your Mum.  I am not sure what the rules are here with sharing Go Fund Me links and it may be that this is not allowed, but I can understand your need to keep your Mum with you for as long as possible.  Where there is life, there is always hope, whatever the circumstances.

All I can say is that sometimes nature intervenes to make the passage to the next world as gentle as possible, to avoid unnecessary suffering.  There comes a time when the kindest thing we can do is to learn to “let go”.  I know this is not what you want to hear and it was not what I wanted to hear when members of my immediate family were terminally ill.  But now as I look back I realise that they were suffering and in hindsight I wish I had spent more time enjoying every moment being with them during their last months instead of struggling to find cures, fighting to get doctors to provide ever increasing invasive treatments.

I am assuming the NHS have said no further treatment would help and that any private treatment at best can only give your Mum a few more months?  When I was fighting cancer I went to the Bristol Cancer Help Centre (now known as Penny Brohn UK I believe) and I will private message you in the next few days to give you all the information.  Truly inspiring place.  It is a private holistic cancer clinic but it may be helpful as well as any other private treatment you want to try.

Hayden, I hope you will remain strong and take good care of yourself too.  Your family needs you more than ever now and I know you will not let them or yourself down.

Therese xx

Have now sent a private message with some information as promised

by Gemita - 2022-01-26 09:37:34

Hayden, I do wish you and the family all the very best.  Please don't give up, there is a lot to fight for and your Mum might just win the battle for more time and who knows, even a cure?  xx

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